M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC
Coast Road, Rhyl, LL18 3PL
07551 529 386
In the economic climate we live in worries about employment and redundancy are very real for most couples.
This can put enormous pressure on a relationship, particularly if the major earners job is lost or under threat.
Redundancy consultations can put great pressure on the couple and family.
The relationship balance can get upset and talking about money can be even more difficult than conversations about sex.
Losing your job can mean obvious economic struggles as well as losing routine and role or sense of purpose. Your work role can be an important part of your identity and confidence can get damaged by job loss. This can impact on your ideas of what a mans, or a womans role is, in relation to providing for the family.
In losing your job you may go through a loss process like any other grief.
There may be feelings of shame, blame, fear, anger.
Feelings like these can be explored in counselling and each partners position considered, with a view to perhaps finding a new balance and finding practical solutions. For example if the partner who earned the major salary loses their job then domestic arrangements may need to be re-set. It may mean a rebalancing of who earns the major salary. More traditional roles and expectations can be challenged.
Although this may make absolutely logical sense, it may challenge emotional beliefs and values about roles and expectations learned early in life.
Unpacking these and understanding them together can help you find more creative solutions to these problems.
Source Litvinoff, The Relate Guide to Better Relationships