M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC
Coast Road, Rhyl, LL18 3PL
07551 529 386
Sometimes people wonder if they should come along to counselling about relationship issues with or without their partner, or without being in a current relationship.
The difference between seeing a non relationship qualified counsellor and a relationship counsellor is:
A trained relationship counsellor will keep the focus on the relationship/ on the "in between", not completely on one or the other of you but on what you make together... your relationship.
A non trained relationship counsellor may focus on "within" i.e. only individual feelings thoughts and behaviours.
My focus will be on how what you feel, do and think impacts on each other and how you communicate your individual interpretations and meanings in your relationship to the other.
It can be very helpful for a counsellor to meet you both together, to see the couple relationship "alive" in the counselling room. This can "show" the counsellor and very effectively demonstrate the problems and can mean they can be worked on immediately, together.
There are sometimes reasons why only one half of a couple can attend, perhaps a partner can't or won't attend. The focus still remains on the "between" and relationship even though the other partner isn't in the room with you. The counsellor will invite the other person's perspective into the room to help look at the issues from various angles. This can be helpful particularly if you're feeling very "stuck" in thinking.
Perhaps you would like to look at patterns of relationships in your life to make sense of the past, but aren't in a current relationship.
People will often come along to relationship counselling individually when their relationship has ended and they want to understand "why?"