Wales Counselling provides counselling to help couples adjust to the change of moving in together, marriage, or civil partnerships

Claire McCluskey
M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC

Coast Road, Rhyl, LL18 3PL
07551 529 386

Commitment: Moving in together, Marriage or Civil Partnership

Any of these involve big adjustments.

Any change, even positive change, can be stressful.

You may have left your family or friends or your own place to live with a partner.

Practical decisions like who does what about the house will get decided and may be heavily influenced by expectations of roles and unwritten rules.

These ideas may be different for you and your partner, and because they make sense to you it may be tricky to understand how come your partner has different ideas.

Working out finances and talking about money can be difficult.

Couples find money sex and children the topics they most frequently struggle with.

Sometimes people say the first year of cohabiting or marriage is the most difficult.

This is because the initial "falling in love" feelings often don't sustain beyond a couple of years and longer tern loving will begin. This stage can involve doubts and differing expectations.

Lots of books are written about what doesn't work in relationships and not so much on what does work.

Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee researched healthy relationships and developed Seven Tasks which successful or lasting love relationships achieve.

These tasks are:

Source Wallerstein J, Blakeslee S, The Good Marriage How and Why Love Lasts