M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC
Coast Road, Rhyl, LL18 3PL
07551 529 386
It is normal for both partners in a relationship not to agree at times. No one can possibly agree on everything, all of the time.
Anger is often an umbrella term which can covers a variety of emotions; sadness, anxiety, depression, jealousy, shame, fear, insecurity, grief, sadness, rejection, injustice or guilt.
Anger gets a bad reputation because of the harm it can cause others. The feeling is just a feeling. It's what we do with it can cause problems. When you row you can assume positions of opponents. It can become a win or lose situation and you can say things you don't really mean and later regret. These words and this behaviour can destroy relationships.
Different families have different ways of dealing with anger or having a row.
Children may learn these behaviours from their parents.
It can be useful to explore our own anger... triggers, signs, influences, and actions.
People cope in with anger in different way. Some people will avoid it by not acknowledging they feel it. Others will withdraw or run away from it. Anger can be stored away over time inside you. This may seem like a pressure cooker. Anger can eventually explode.
Counselling can help you explore your relationship with anger and change it. Counselling will encourage people take responsibility for their anger and learn the differences between anger and aggression. It can help identify triggers and develop coping strategies and action, change.
Work on assertiveness may help communication as it does not involve either becoming confrontational (fight) or running away (flight), but means having respectful attitude toward yourself and your partner.
Client safety – physical and emotional is of the upmost concern and a counsellor may refer clients to individual support as appropriate.